I have written about extra-marital affairs in my other blog and am a firm believer that once there is an extra-marital affair, it is best to let the cheating spouse go, and officially declare emotional abandonment as unacceptable. The cheating spouse is unhappy in the marriage and it is unfair and mentally agonizing for the spouse who has been cheated to forgive the cheater. Granted that it cannot always be the case – there are families involved, and many times there are children as well – and a compromise towards maintaining peace is often reached. However, if there are no such ties involved, it is best to walk out.
One of the more dramatic movies made on extra-marital affairs is Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna, and it was my first movie review. When I read it now, I realize that my opinion on Dev the ineffectual wimp hasn’t changed. The irony – Dev was played by the super successful Shahrukh Khan.
Rhea (played by Preity Zinta) is his hard-working and professionally more successful wife. Dev is emotionally unavailable to her and their son, and is a bitter man because he cannot play football anymore (post an accident) – and therefore doesn’t have a stable career.
There are several confrontation scenes between the two of them. In one of them, Dev wrongly accuses Rhea of taking up a more lucrative offer and being selfish regarding herself and her career, and doesn’t wait for her to announce that she has let the offer pass because it would mean uprooting their family.
There is another scene where Rhea declares to him that she wears the pants in the marriage, and that harsh truth leaves him shattered. He is forced to face his own incompetence, and is unable to deal with it in a constructive manner. The affair follows.
The scene where Rhea slaps him after getting to know about his extra-marital affair had left me with mixed feelings. She could have expressed her sense of betrayal with words? For instance, with something on the lines of, “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”
Perhaps Rhea decided that it was no longer worth it to be reasonable with Dev.
With the wimp out of her way, Rhea then decides to focus on her son and her work – in that order. Her mother-in-law supports her, and stays back with her. She finds love again.
One of the more dramatic movies made on extra-marital affairs is Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna, and it was my first movie review. When I read it now, I realize that my opinion on Dev the ineffectual wimp hasn’t changed. The irony – Dev was played by the super successful Shahrukh Khan.
Rhea (played by Preity Zinta) is his hard-working and professionally more successful wife. Dev is emotionally unavailable to her and their son, and is a bitter man because he cannot play football anymore (post an accident) – and therefore doesn’t have a stable career.
There are several confrontation scenes between the two of them. In one of them, Dev wrongly accuses Rhea of taking up a more lucrative offer and being selfish regarding herself and her career, and doesn’t wait for her to announce that she has let the offer pass because it would mean uprooting their family.
There is another scene where Rhea declares to him that she wears the pants in the marriage, and that harsh truth leaves him shattered. He is forced to face his own incompetence, and is unable to deal with it in a constructive manner. The affair follows.
The scene where Rhea slaps him after getting to know about his extra-marital affair had left me with mixed feelings. She could have expressed her sense of betrayal with words? For instance, with something on the lines of, “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”
Perhaps Rhea decided that it was no longer worth it to be reasonable with Dev.
With the wimp out of her way, Rhea then decides to focus on her son and her work – in that order. Her mother-in-law supports her, and stays back with her. She finds love again.
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